Summer Lovin’: How to drama-proof your life, part 2

Lovin’ Type Two: How Can I Help?

Feeling the love? If you’ve got Enneagram Twos on your team, you most certainly are! On this week’s summer tour we hear from the Enneagram Two Helper, and discover ways we can reduce the drama and increase the LOVE with these generous types.

IF THIS IS YOU:

Acknowledge your amazing gifts to build community and help everyone all the time. Remember: Not everyone has your gifts to love people with such intensity, sensitivity and generosity. It’s NOT personal when that love doesn’t seem to come back to you.

To reduce the pain and drama in your life, practice replacing silent expectations of others with clear boundaries* for yourself.

* To set a boundary: Get in touch with what you authentically want to do, give, say, and then put a fence around it – so you don’t give more than you truly want to.

IF THIS IS SOMEONE YOU KNOW:

Return the love the Enneagram Two gives to you! Pay attention to all they’re doing for your team, relationship, or family. Affirm their efforts – and lighten some of their burden – by stepping up to help them. They may never ask for help, but they are sure to appreciate it – and to feel the love.

To learn more about what empowers and disempowers an Enneagram Two check out this infographic.

Would you like to activate the superpowers on your team? Are you looking for more insights and tools on how to motivate, engage and lead your team? I’d love to chat with you!

Summer Lovin’: How to drama-proof your life, part 1

Lovin’ Type One: Being Perfect in a Pandemic

2020 has provided enough drama for a decade. We don’t need more of it on our teams or in our personal relationships.

Our summer Enneagram tour provides tips and tools about how to work with – or live as – each of the 9 Enneagram types during the new normal.

Enjoy this week’s Public Service Announcement (PSA) and journal entry from an Enneagram One Reformer:

IF THIS IS YOU:

Understand that perfection is your ultimate goal and that you’ll notice mistakes – and care about them – MUCH more than others. Let people know ahead of time that you’ll be particular about doing it right, and allow some wiggle room and accommodations for inevitable mistakes – early on.

Olivia missed her deadline due to someone else’s mistake. Now she can set up a system to get colleague’s work early, review early, and allow iterative improvement. Someone else’s mistake can trigger solutions instead of snark.

IF THIS IS SOMEONE YOU KNOW:

Please don’t ever say to a One “You did it wrong” or “Why didn’t you?” or “Haven’t you…?” In all likelihood they already noticed any mistakes and are mortified by them. Instead, ask questions and assume the best of intentions. Ones want to get everything just right – including their relationship with you.

To learn more about what empowers and disempowers the Enneagram One check out this infographic.

Are you looking for more insights and tools on how to motivate, engage and lead your team? I’d love to chat with you.